How Do We Fight The Good Fight?

2Corithians10vs3-5 -----NIV
For though we live in the world,we do not wage War as  the world does.
The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world.On the contrary 
They have divine power to demolish strongholds.
We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets up itself against the knowledge 
of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ

Ephesians6 vs11-12
Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil's  scheme
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood,but against the rulers, against the authorities
against the the powers of this dark world and against spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly
Realms

Because our lives as believers is intensely spiritual every thing that affects us is also spiritual

and our warfare as confirmed by the above scriptures is no different.Our failure has always been that we see our lives in the world as beginning and ending here only. As a young attorney who loves her profession and always eager to be in the court room to hear your seniors argue cases has always been fun and exciting.The exception to this is of course when you have to sit through a divorce proceeding. It is heart breaking to see the confusion,anger,bitterness that spues out from those who once vouched to love each other and protect each other. It's simply heart wrenching.

Therefore the first thing to do is to acknowledge that your spouse is not your enemy.No matter what went down between you,don't fight each other,every body looses that way,and their no victors only victims. And the real arch enemy,the devil,the accuser of the brethren goes home scoring a point.The enemy knows that a blow against your marriage is a blow that is difficult to recover from.A wounded soul proverbs says is heaviness and weariness to the spirit. The battle for your marriage is not just about you, it is a battle for God's honor and name in our lives.That's what the enemy is after to discredit God in our lives.The enemy has come steal,kill and destroy.

Speaking from the perspective of a woman,you are a creature of relationship ,that's what makes you tick.Therefore arise and fight,you are God's battle axe,don't join the blame game and loose focus.In the garden of Eden the first family lost the battle when Adam blamed God and his wife------- it is this woman you gave me, she gave me of the tree and I ate". It is Eve who on the other hand pointed out the real enemy---- the deceiver who had his way because Eve lacked amongst other things the lack of godly contentment. Eve though guilty of her sin protected her husband by not accusing him of wrong doing. Another woman that acknowledge that the battle was not against flesh and blood was Queen Esther of the Media- Persian empire. She said to the king who is able to destroy the enemy of her people,------"  The adversary and enemy is this vile Haman------.By using the word "the adversary" in capital letters ,it shows that Haman is a personification of the real adversary.So husbands and wives ,STOP The Blame Game and Fight the Real enemy, our Adversary the devil who is roaring like a lion seeking to destroy . I pray for us this year that he will not find you or me and our families.

When a blacksmith is rubbing two metals together ,there usually arises little sparks of fire  in the process, the same is true of every marriage relationship.The process of cleaving will cause sparks to fly,it's not the end of the marriage,but an opportunity for sacrifice, selflessness,and real love.A most effective way to deal with this is called forgiveness .If you have ever loved your spouse there is nothing that can not be forgiven. Love is willingness to forgive, and cover the weaknesses of each other.The injunction of our Lord to us to forgive each other as He had forgiven us, should be practiced more in marriage than anywhere else. Every body in the marriage has something to loose,our inability to forgive each other is brought into the church on Sunday mornings.our worship service atmosphere  is choked with pain,hurt, anger,and unresolved issues and the Spirit of God is grieved more as  He is not  Invited into the situation so can He bring healing and restoration and glorify His holy name in our lives.
  

In Samuel we read the story of forgiveness and repentance of a godly woman called Abigail. She was beautiful but the most outstanding thing about her the bible says is "she is a woman of great understanding".Because she understood spiritual things she was able deal with potential problematic issues with wisdom.when she heard what her husband had done to David and his men, she forgave her husband did not accuse him of injustice ,she went ahead to repent on his behalf  and interceded so that David will not kill her husband Nabal.She risked her life for her marriage, her family. This is the power of love,committment and sacrifice.She did what every believer is commanded to do .We are without excuse because Jesus has done it and shown a more excellent way.

Love brought Jesus to earth and took Him to Calvary. Love can conquer any foe,if faith is the victory according John,love is power of that victory.Love the bible says is the fulfillment of the law.meaning where there is real love there will be no divorce because according to Malachi,divorce is violence ,treachery,deceit and hardness of heart. But God's kind of love is able to overcome all these.

We continue again next time on how to fight the good fight,but until then beloved do not give up,God is still on the throne working all things together for the good of His people whom He called for His purpose. For those doing well today in your marriage this is the time to start fighting,at least now you know there is an enemy out there who will not rest until there is a putting away.For those who struggling with the threat of divorce don't give  up, your God is a miracle working God and He loves you with a passion.He work something out and it will be for your good.

Fight for the next generation and insist this is not going any further,it ends right here and now..